July is <\/em><\/em>Bebe Moore Campbell National Minority Mental Health Awareness Month<\/em><\/em><\/a>.<\/p>\n As told to <\/em><\/em>Jacquelyne Froeber<\/em><\/em><\/a><\/p>\n Social gatherings were a nightmare for me.<\/p>\n Walking into any event, big or small, it felt like all eyes were on me. Focused. Like I was a specimen under a microscope and everyone was watching \u2014 judging \u2014 waiting for me to embarrass myself. <\/p>\n The fear of rejection ruled my world. As a child, I never wanted to say the wrong thing, so I didn\u2019t talk a lot. When I did, I\u2019d run the conversation back over and over in my head until I\u2019d convinced myself that I\u2019d messed everything up and no one liked me.<\/p>\n I was told I was shy and sensitive \u2014 both of which are true. But growing up in a Korean American household, we didn\u2019t have open conversations about anxiety or trauma or emotional well-being. Mental health carried a lot of stigma in our culture, and any emotional struggles were minimized or kept private. So, that\u2019s what I did. <\/p>\n As I got older, I tried to overcome my \u201cshyness\u201d and put myself out there and meet new people, but something as simple as striking up a conversation was an exhausting process. I\u2019d become hyper focused on every word and every movement like I was an outsider critiquing my performance. I was never in the moment \u2014 never off the cuff and never truly myself. Afterward, the repetitive thoughts of how I didn\u2019t fit in, didn\u2019t make enough eye contact, didn\u2019t say anything right, would go on for hours \u2014 sometimes days. <\/p>\n As an artist, I had to dig deep to attend some industry and networking events, but otherwise I avoided social situations. I was often lonely, and at times, frustrated with myself. I couldn\u2019t understand why everyone else seemed so confident, and I struggled with small talk.<\/p>\n I knew I was missing out on connections and opportunities, but most days I was too overwhelmed. <\/p>\n The silver lining was my art. Creating art was the only thing that helped get me out of my head. Although the relief was short-lived, it meant everything to me. And knowing that I could achieve a more positive head space sparked my curiosity for other things I could do to help redirect my thoughts. <\/p>\n I started researching mental health conditions online and saw my experiences reflected in different diagnoses, including anxiety. I knew the next step would be to talk to a professional, so I signed up for therapy. It wasn\u2019t long before I had a diagnosis: social anxiety disorder<\/a>.<\/p>\n Putting a name to everything I\u2019d been experiencing \u2014 the intense scrutiny and fear \u2014 was beyond validating. For so long I\u2019d thought my symptoms were just part of being shy and sensitive, but it was social anxiety disorder. And there were tools that could help me. <\/p>\n My initial goal was to get rid of my anxiety completely. But I quickly realized that anxiety wasn\u2019t something I could eliminate. It was something I needed to work with and understand. <\/p>\n For me, avoidance made my anxiety worse, so I started challenging myself to do things that felt uncomfortable because I knew I\u2019d come out of each situation with new tools in my toolkit.<\/p>\n After my diagnosis, I started creating illustrations about my experience with anxiety and other mental-health related conditions and posting them on social media. The whole process helped me turn my difficult emotions into something tangible and allowed me to process my experiences rather than get stuck in them. <\/p>\n After a few posts, I started receiving messages from complete strangers that said, \u201cI thought I was the only one who felt like this\u201d and \u201cI feel this way too.\u201d Each message was life-changing for me. For so long, I thought I was the only one struggling. Now, the thing that was so isolating for me had become a bridge to other people. I realized that my personal art could create a sense of community and reduce the shame around mental health. <\/p>\n Mental health advocacy is deeply personal to me. Being Korean American has shaped my understanding of the strengths and the challenges that can exist within our communities. Today, I see a lot more Asian American people working in mental health spaces than I did when I was growing up. And that\u2019s inspired me to work with different organizations like National Asian American Pacific Islander Mental Health Association (NAPIMA), The Jed Foundation and Crisis Text Line because I’ve seen how powerful it can be when people feel safe enough to speak honestly about their experiences and how representation matters. <\/p>\n For anyone struggling with social anxiety disorder, know you\u2019re not alone. Social anxiety can come with a really harsh inner critic, and learning to change that conversation and speak to yourself with kindness can make a huge difference in your life. <\/p>\n I know it\u2019s not easy. Every day I care for my mental health through a combination of therapy, creativity, meaningful relationships, boundaries, movement and rest. <\/p>\n One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that mental health is not something that you achieve once and never think about it again. It’s usually a series of small moments and experiences, like going to an event you\u2019re afraid of or asking for help. Or showing up as yourself \u2014 fully present \u2014 even though it\u2019s scary.<\/p>\n Resources<\/strong><\/p>\n Crisis Text Line<\/a><\/p>\n The Jed Foundation<\/a><\/p>\n National Asian American Pacific Islander Mental Health Association (NAPIMA)<\/a><\/p>\n Have your own Real Women, Real Stories you want to share? <\/em><\/em>Let us know<\/em><\/em><\/a>.<\/em><\/em><\/p>\n Our Real Women, Real Stories are the authentic experiences of real-life women. The views, opinions and experiences shared in these stories are not endorsed by HealthyWomen and do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of HealthyWomen.<\/em><\/em><\/p>\n![\"Art](\"https:\/\/www.healthywomen.org\/media-library\/art-by-zo-u00eb.jpg?id=67540839&width=980\")
Art by Zo\u00eb<\/small><\/p>\n![\"Zo\\u00eb](\"https:\/\/www.healthywomen.org\/media-library\/zo-u00eb-at-a-recent-art-show.jpg?id=67540842&width=980\")
Zo\u00eb at a recent art show<\/small><\/p>\n![\"Art](\"https:\/\/www.healthywomen.org\/media-library\/art-by-zo-u00eb.png?id=67540845&width=980\")
Art by Zo\u00eb<\/small><\/p>\n