\t\t\t<\/p>\n \t\t\t\t\t\t <\/p>\n \tRelated story \t\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n \t\t\t\t\tJenni ‘JWoww’ Farley Missed a Back-to-School Milestone For This Relatable Reason\t\t<\/p>\n <\/span><\/p><\/div>\n \t\t<\/a><\/p>\n<\/article>\n \t \n\tInstead of focusing on superficial physical details, Blanco listed foundational qualities like being \u201cage-appropriate,\u201d genuinely nice, and compassionate.<\/p>\n \n\t\u201cThese were like broad things, and if it didn\u2019t meet those like first five or six things, [I] couldn\u2019t even pursue,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n \n\tOne of the most important items on Blanco\u2019s list was finding a partner who \u201cwoke up generally happy,\u201d but was also \u201cactively\u201d willing to work through their hard days.<\/p>\n \n\t\u201cAnd if they were sad, they were doing something about it.\u201d he continued. \u201cLike they were going to therapy, they were taking medicine if they need to, they were doing yoga.\u201d<\/p>\n \n\tThat emotional maturity naturally aligned with Gomez, who openly advocates<\/a> for psychiatric care while managing bipolar disorder<\/a>.\u00a0<\/p>\n \n\t\u201cIt is helpful to have a partner that will understand where the temperature is at and meet you where you are,\u201d Gomez said on an episode of Blanco\u2019s podcast, <\/em>Friends Keep Secrets<\/em><\/a>.\u00a0<\/p>\n \n\tBlanco is equally transparent about his own mental health journey. In a recent interview with Audacy<\/a>, Blanco admitted to getting \u201ccrippled by anxiety.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n \n\t\u201cIt\u2019s OK to not be OK all the time,\u201d he added. \u201cI feel like more people should just be real about it and say that everything isn\u2019t always perfect. It\u2019s not always fine. We\u2019re always in some sort of battle, and you should talk about it, and talk to other people, and find someone great that you can talk to.\u201d<\/p>\n \n\tDoing that emotional groundwork is exactly what prepared Blanco for his marriage<\/a>. Even though he and Gomez first crossed paths 15 years ago, he admits that getting together back then just wasn\u2019t in the cards.\u00a0<\/p>\n \n\t\u201cWe worked together five or six years after that, and then again five or six years after that, and had a casual friendship\u2026 then we started dating a few years after that,\u201d he told Robbins. \u201cWe always talk about how it never would\u2019ve worked out if it were at a different time or place in our lives, because neither one of us would\u2019ve likely been ready.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n![\"Jenni](\"https:\/\/www.sheknows.com\/wp-content\/themes\/vip\/pmc-sheknows-2020\/assets\/public\/lazyload-fallback.gif\")
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\n<\/section>\n<\/p>\n\n\t\tWhat Really Matters When Looking for a Partner\u00a0\t<\/h2>\n
\n\t\tHandling the Hard Days Together\u00a0\t<\/h2>\n