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Researchers investigated the relationship between gratitude and sexual satisfaction across three studies. Together, the studies found that both appreciating a partner and feeling appreciated were associated with greater sexual communal strength.<\/p>\n
One study<\/a> followed 118 couples, assessing gratitude and sexual communal strength at three points over three months. Both appreciating a partner and feeling appreciated by them were linked to increased motivation to care for their sexual needs. When researchers considered both together, feeling appreciated emerged as the more consistent predictor. This is a good reminder that, if your partner has lower desire, being extra aware of expressing appreciation is likely to pay off long-term.<\/p>\n In a separate experiment<\/a>, participants completed writing exercises about appreciating their partner, feeling appreciated by their partner or neutral topics as a control. Those assigned to either gratitude exercise subsequently reported greater sexual communal strength than those in the control groups. This experiment suggests gratitude can influence the motivation to meet your partner\u2019s sexual needs, rather than simply accompany it. The practical possibility is compelling. Noticing what you value in your partner may help you feel more inclined to invest in your intimate connection.<\/p>\n The benefits extend beyond the bedroom.<\/p>\n Of course, sexual intimacy exists within a larger relationship. How partners treat each other over breakfast, during a stressful afternoon or while managing household responsibilities contributes to the relationship they bring into bed.<\/p>\n In long-term partnerships, thoughtful gestures can become so familiar they barely register. We must fight our brain\u2019s urge to notice what\u2019s not working and be intentional about acknowledging everything that is. You may quickly notice the dishes your partner left in the sink but overlook the nice evening they rearranged to support you. When all we focus on is what\u2019s missing, we miss all the wonderful things happening right in front of us.<\/p>\n Gratitude offers a way to give those caring moments more attention.<\/p>\n Research<\/a> led by psychologist Amie Gordon, Ph.D., found that people who felt appreciated by their partners were more appreciative in return. People who appreciated their partners were more attentive to their partners\u2019 needs, felt more committed to the relationship, and were more likely to stay together long-term. <\/p>\n