\t\t\t<\/p>\n \t\t\t\t\t\t <\/p>\n \tRelated story \t\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n \t\t\t\t\tJulianne Moore Wants to Make Talking to Your Doctor About Brain Health the New Normal\t\t<\/p>\n <\/span><\/p><\/div>\n \t\t<\/a><\/p>\n<\/article>\n \t \n\tGrowing up, Sailor thought she and her mom were just different \u2014 Christie was naturally happy, and she wasn\u2019t. While she was trying to make sense of her own feelings, her mother seemed to have it figured out.<\/p>\n \n\t\u201cMy mom\u2019s absolute joy and joie de vivre made me think, how is she so happy all the time?\u201d she recalled. \u201cI thought that I was dealt a different set of cards and that I simply wasn\u2019t as joyful as she was.\u201d<\/p>\n \n\tThat changed as Sailor got older and learned how difficult it could be to stay hopeful herself. She and Christie have grown closer, and she now credits her mom for something she couldn\u2019t see as a child: making a good life<\/a> even when things went wrong.<\/p>\n \n\t\u201cShe wasn\u2019t this lucky girl for whom everything went right,\u201d she said. \u201cLots of things didn\u2019t go her way but she created this beautiful life from the ground up, and she persevered through the storms.\u201d<\/p>\n \n\tSailor also remembers how much other people\u2019s kindness helped when she was struggling. Those interactions didn\u2019t have to be big to matter, and they made her want to do the same for someone else.<\/p>\n \n\t\u201cWhen I was having a terrible day, small acts of compassion would change the trajectory of my entire day,\u201d she said. \u201cI would absorb the kindness around me, and in turn, simply smile at someone.\u201d<\/p>\n \n\tSailor didn\u2019t get through those years on her own. Along with the encouragement she got from family and friends, she had help from a psychiatrist \u2014 a part of her story she made sure to mention.<\/p>\n \n\t\u201cI am so deeply grateful that I have the family, friends, the psychiatrist, and the support system that pulled me out of the dark place,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n \n\tShe\u2019s also learned what helps her on a difficult day. Her \u201ctoolbox\u201d includes simple routines<\/a>, like getting outside for a walk or picking up coffee at her favorite neighborhood spot. Having a few familiar things to turn to is important to her, especially when life isn\u2019t going as planned.<\/p>\n \n\t\u201cWhen you need self-soothing, you go to it, especially during the tough times,\u201d she explained.<\/p>\n \n\tSailor said turning 28 brought a sense of relief she wants other young people to know is possible. Celebrating her birthday with Christie in France, she realized she was starting to feel more like herself. \u201cI want to scream out from the rooftops to every young person growing up to HOLD ON \u2013 and get through the fire,\u201d she said. \u201cWe are figuring things out in our 20s, but there is relief around the corner.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n![\"Julianne](\"https:\/\/www.sheknows.com\/wp-content\/themes\/vip\/pmc-sheknows-2020\/assets\/public\/lazyload-fallback.gif\")
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\n\t\tHow Sailor Found Support for Depression and Anxiety\t<\/h2>\n