Finally, keep in mind that not only are you not the only one heading into a dysfunctional family setting this holiday season, you’re actually among the vast majority. Everyone, no matter their background, can relate to you in this situation.
“We are all human, we all have differences of opinions, our different experiences and traumas,” Levi said. “With different lived experiences comes the possibility of dysfunction happening.”
There’s no excuse for prejudice, judgment or hate, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with sitting out a family gathering if it makes you feel unsafe. If, however, you do feel that you can show up to the holiday occasion without sacrificing your mental health, then you should do just that — and with an open, optimistic mind.
“If you can, give yourself permission to enjoy the holidays with family, even if it’s only for a small moment,” Levi said. “We each deserve to be happy and to live in peace — even if it means creating it for yourself.”
